How To Make The Most Out Of Every Day (Even The Bad Ones)

A man staring off into the sunrise at the shore

So life has seen fit to bless me with some good changes in life, with one particular shakeup being a new career trajectory.

But that also means less time for my blog and novels—especially for staring out the window and pondering the next sentences in my story.

These days it’s just bam-bam-bam. Got a blog idea? Bang out those few paragraphs any time I can. A new plot direction? Put it on paper first and think about it later.

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The Blogging Rules That I’ve Stopped Caring About (And The Ones I Still Use)

A man in hooded mask with a cigarette. Superimposed text reads: Going gangsta on this blogging thing

I like writing about writing, and blogging is just an extension of that. But then I reread posts like this and I cringe at how I think I pass as an authority of any capacity to write that.

That doesn’t change the fact that I’m still going to write this post about blogging, though.

Through my time spent on WordPress, I’ve come to learn that some things are more effective than others when it comes to growth. Which is why I’m presenting you with my data and it’s up to you what you want to do with it.

Let’s start with pictures.

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How To Deal With The Highs And Lows Of Life

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So I posted about being in a rut not too long ago, and I have to admit, it’s been a challenge trying to claw my way back out. But that’s life for you, right? A constant journey of highs and lows?

Sometimes, Low Me just barges into my life like an unwanted relative. But I can’t just close the door on him, because that’d mean closing the door on High Me too.

That’s why we’ll be exploring the things you should do when you reach either side of the spectrum, who shall henceforth be known as High You and Low You.

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Just Me In Good Humour About Turning 40

A woman with short, grey hair

I wrote a version of this post before, but that was about lessons. Unfortunately, learning isn’t on the agenda today. Instead, I’m just going to rant.

And while I have quite a few months ahead before my big four-oh, I thought I’d get a head start on what I think about turning 40.

Is this going to be a useful post? Probably not. Will it help you find solace? Maybe. What’s most important is the realisation that we’re all on a one-way journey. So we best make fun of ourselves while we can.

And that’s exactly what I’m going to do.

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I Fell Into A Life Rut And This Is What It’s Taught Me

Life Rut Woman Chairs - Laura Chouette

Once in a while, I’m reminded that just because I’ve set goals doesn’t mean it’s a straight shot to the podium. Case in point: that time I thought I’d win my division in a jiu-jitsu competition.

I trained twice a day for months leading up to it. And that’s discounting the years I’d invested in the sport beforehand.

I lost the first round. My coach, sensing my disappointment in travelling all the way to Japan just to have an anti-climactic end, said: “Well, you either win or you learn.”

Those words have become a meme in the jiu-jitsu community, but they still ring true. In life, you could either succeed in your plans, or you could figure out why you didn’t.

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