7 Reasons Why Your Blog Could Totally Improve Your Life

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So Iโ€™ve kept this blog for nine years now, but itโ€™s only in the past three that I started taking it seriously. And by serious I mean no sporadic posts, always networking on WordPress, and acting as if I know what Iโ€™m doing.

Thing is, Iโ€™ve never earned a dime from my blog, and I canโ€™t use it to sell anything even if I wanted to.

But just because I didnโ€™t gain monetary rewards doesnโ€™t mean I didnโ€™t benefit from โ€˜going proโ€™ when it comes to blogging. So what can a domain name and a paid WordPress account get you? Let me count you the ways.

1. You get to suck constantly at writing

Canโ€™t stop sucking if you donโ€™t stop writing. And maintaining a blog is exactly that: you sucking for all eternity.

The good news is that nothing lasts forever. So in a similar vein, you wonโ€™t suck forever. Because youโ€™ll be dead. But until then, you get the joy of putting out work that youโ€™re mildly dissatisfied with but canโ€™t quite put a finger on why.

Itโ€™s good to be humble. And I like being reminded that I can work my entire life and still not get anywhere with my writing. Thatโ€™s why I keep the blog. Because this reminder is the only thing that makes me work harder.

2. Youโ€™ll appreciate being paid for your words

โ€œDonโ€™t accept anything less than 50 cents per word,โ€ they say. They being established writers who have a foot in the door of publishing. โ€œDonโ€™t let them exploit you.โ€ Them being whoever has the money.

Well, hereโ€™s a math question for you. Would you pay a senior writer the same amount as a junior? What about an intern?

Itโ€™s the same with gig writing. You canโ€™t expect an intern equivalent of a freelancer to earn the going rate of 50 cents per word. So naturally, the younger writers will have to give up certain luxuries relegated to the veterans.

Writers will either have to be experienced, well-connected, or cheap to get paid. And guess where that leaves inexperienced, new writers? Ditto.

But no fear! Keep a blog and get used to writing for free, and even two cents per word will seem like a dream!

Heck, Iโ€™d even sell my fiction for less than that if it meant others would read it.

3. Youโ€™ll get used to speaking to an empty room

I like to liken writing to open mic night. Anybody who dares bare their soul gets to face an audience. Itโ€™s just that very few spectators ever make it to these venues.

But do it long enough and a talent scout might chance upon your gigs. Or suck at it until you get good, and youโ€™ll naturally set yourself apart from the people who donโ€™t put in the work.

Performing for a crowd does have a thrill to it, but to really appreciate that, youโ€™ll have to first get used to speaking to a crowd of twoโ€”one of them being your mum.

Iโ€™ve blogged for so long now that it feels like Iโ€™m speaking to myself every time I write, so Iโ€™m fine if nobody reads this. But then the odd reader like you comes along and leaves a comment and that makes my day.

4. You get to enjoy the inconvenience of having ideas when you donโ€™t have anything to record them down with

The title says it all.

5. You get to become a social butterfly

Yep, you read that right. Being on WordPress, especially, gives you the training you need to up your small talk game. The catch? You have to network first.

Now, Iโ€™m the type of person who loved the lockdown period. So if anyoneโ€™s getting a Platinum Member card in the Introvertโ€™s Club, itโ€™s gonna be me.

Which is why when I got this new job that requires meeting strangers four days out of the week, I actually considered changing careers to becoming a night-shift security guard. Or a mortician. At least I’m not expected to make friends there. But I digress. (Also, follow me on Instagram if you enjoy seeing me battle my introversion every day.)

So when I say that commenting on WordPress has allowed me to adapt in conversations, I mean it. Itโ€™s allowed me to distil the proper information out of every paragraphโ€”or chunk of conversationโ€”and reply without too much thought.

The only downside is that I canโ€™t send people to the Spam folder if they try selling me unsolicited โ€˜health supplementsโ€™.

6. You can tell your potential employers youโ€™re a writer

No published writing? No problem. Your posts count as published articles. Mainly because most times, when employers ask you for your portfolio, they just want to know how you write.

And your raw writing on your blog tells them so much more than an edited piece in a magazine would.

Plus, thereโ€™s just something about someone who writes without being paid that warms employers up to actually paying you.

If I had the money to hire writers, Iโ€™d definitely want the applicant whoโ€™s written on their own accord, versus the one whoโ€™s never cared to write anything in their life.

7. You get to enjoy the stress of a job, without the job

Are you shrinking away from the mention of the word โ€˜stress’? Maybe itโ€™s too edgy for you? Am I being too sigma male hustle YOLO GaryVee?

I mean it though. Stress is good for you. A healthy amount of it, at least. Iโ€™ve had the privilege of being stressless before. And I can safely say that being stressless is actually pretty stressful, and going through stressful periods in my life has allowed me to grow.

Itโ€™s a weird paradox, but itโ€™s true. I can give you a life of Mai Tais on the beach and youโ€™ll probably beg for a blogging deadline before the weekโ€™s up.

Thatโ€™s what I get from maintaining this blog. Iโ€™ve published weekly for three years now, and Iโ€™m not going to break that chain for anything. Which is why when itโ€™s Monday and I havenโ€™t written a post for Tuesday, I start ditching all the unproductive activities like doom-scrolling on my phone just so I can speak to an empty room.

All I need to do is to stop paying for my WordPress account and Iโ€™ll be released from the weekly stressors that haunt me so. But thatโ€™ll be my equivalent of Mai Tais on the beach. And Iโ€™d much rather stay sober, if you know what I mean.

Youโ€™re on the right path

If youโ€™re reading this, chances are youโ€™re a blogger yourself. Youโ€™ve probably questioned your reasons for staying on, and I know if youโ€™ve ever blogged, youโ€™ll definitely have thought about quitting.

But sometimes it isnโ€™t about getting results. Sometimes itโ€™s about finding the meaning in the work, even though there may not be any.

I know how thankless blogging can be. Because there arenโ€™t many reasons why someone would do it for years on end. But you just listed seven reasons, youโ€™d be thinking, and youโ€™d be right.

But I made all that up. I needed to stick to a deadline, so I needed to come up with something.

The weird thing is though, Iโ€™m rather happy with this weekโ€™s piece, and I wouldnโ€™t have come up with it, had I not had this post to honour.

So yeah. Keep your blog. Your reasons will come later.


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113 responses to “7 Reasons Why Your Blog Could Totally Improve Your Life”

  1. mentallycomplicated Avatar
    mentallycomplicated

    I finally had the courage to start blogging after wanting to start one for 3+ years now. It’s certainty does feel like you’re talking to the void, but hey sometimes you need to let your thoughts flow.
    Thank you for this post and helping me reassure myself, that I’ll find my reason to why I wanted to start and why I started.

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    1. Stuart Danker Avatar
      Stuart Danker

      Even after doing this for a while, I still feel like Iโ€™m writing for the void most of the time. I think thatโ€™s what gives me the freedom to write what I want. The knowledge that Iโ€™ll never feel great about my writing most times, so I might as well put in the work without expectations. Anyway, thanks for your thoughts!

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  2. Meagan Kimberly Avatar
    Meagan Kimberly

    Blogging does often feel like a glorified version of talking to yourself lol. and I’ve definitely thought to myself “why keep going? no one’s reading this and it just costs money to keep up the domain.” but then I think, it’s a good way to keep my tools sharp. taps mic is this thing on?

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    1. Stuart Danker Avatar
      Stuart Danker

      Hahaha. The ‘is this thing on’ bit is true for me. Sometimes I almost feel entitled to something, since I’ve been doing this for a while. Then I remind myself that no, the only thing I’m entitled to is the good feeling of having finished a job. That certainly makes the grind more bearable.

      Always glad to exchange thoughts with you!

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  3. Temitope Obaiyanu Avatar
    Temitope Obaiyanu

    I had a lot of laughs reading this post.
    Even tho I often think about quitting blogging.
    But I often find pleasure in telling people that I’m a writer๐Ÿ˜….
    I guess that counts for something.

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  4. Lifan Avatar
    Lifan

    Hi Stuart, Thanks much for sharing your positive thoughts about blogging. I blog for the love of writing. In blogging about my reads, I get to share my thoughts about books that I have just read. Yes do keep writing for the joy of writing.

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    1. Stuart Danker Avatar
      Stuart Danker

      The good thing about sharing reviews is that you get to solidify your thoughts on the books. At least that’s what I feel when I write book reviews. Thanks so much for sharing, LH!

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  5.  Avatar
    Anonymous

    “So in a similar vein, you wonโ€™t suck forever. Because youโ€™ll be dead.” Literal LOL.
    “a crowd of twoโ€”one of them being your mum.” Gotta love the mums!
    As all around entertaining and enlightening as ever, Stuart. :)

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    1. Stuart Danker Avatar
      Stuart Danker

      Thanks so much, kind stranger! Can’t see who you are to reply proper, but I appreciate you nonetheless!

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  6. Sonsonn Motivation Avatar
    Sonsonn Motivation

    You are a legend Mr. Danker. Thank you ๐Ÿ˜Ž

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  7. Alisha Jain Avatar
    Alisha Jain

    I’ve been away from blogging for a while. Was thinking to pick it up again and found your post ๐Ÿ˜„

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    1. Stuart Danker Avatar
      Stuart Danker

      I hope you get back into the groove for sure. I’m glad you stumbled over here, and I’m looking forward to your new posts!

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  8. Alisha Jain Avatar
    Alisha Jain

    “you wonโ€™t suck forever. Because youโ€™ll be dead.ย ” – My take away from this post ๐Ÿ˜„
    Thanks for the motivation Stuart!

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    1. Stuart Danker Avatar
      Stuart Danker

      Lolol I love this comment. Thanks so much for capturing the best gist of it.

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  9. Anitaelise Avatar
    Anitaelise

    Ha ha! Point 7 is my favorite. Writing has helped me communicate better and is so relaxing for me that I really dont mind low the readership my laziness in attending to my blog gets me.

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    1. Stuart Danker Avatar
      Stuart Danker

      I feel like deadlines help me stay on track. It’s true for when I didn’t have a job, and it’s still true today. A life without deadlines becomes a tad listless, at least for me, lol.

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      1. Anitaelise Avatar
        Anitaelise

        It’s interesting hearing deadlines work for you as it’s the opposite for me :)

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  10. Bridgette Avatar
    Bridgette

    Just followed you on Instagram. We bloggers/writers gotta stick together and support each other.

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    1. Stuart Danker Avatar
      Stuart Danker

      I see you, and I appreciate you! Writers unite!

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  11. Bhavana Avatar
    Bhavana

    I was chuckling all through this article! So so funny! I can relate to some of the things you wrote specially about speaking to an empty room and telling potential employers that I’m a writer! Thanks so much for writing this, you made my day!

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    1. Stuart Danker Avatar
      Stuart Danker

      This is exactly the type of comment that makes me feel I’m not speaking to an empty room anymore. I mean, I’ve resigned myself to writing for the sake of it, but then you come along and make my day too. So thanks for that. I appreciate you!

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  12. Melissa Chanthalangsy Avatar
    Melissa Chanthalangsy

    I have greatly appreciated the consistency of your posts. Having your weekly posts hit my inbox is a constant in my ever-changing life seasons.

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    1. Stuart Danker Avatar
      Stuart Danker

      Your quick comment means so much to me, because it’s an honour to be able to put out good vibes into the universe solely off my consistency. I can’t stop now. Thanks for stoking the fire!

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      1. Melissa Chanthalangsy Avatar
        Melissa Chanthalangsy

        I’m so glad :)

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  13. Naomi Peng Avatar
    Naomi Peng

    Could not tell at all you’re an introvert :D Great post! Congrats on 9 years of blogging, judging by it, it’s definitely paid off.

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    1. Stuart Danker Avatar
      Stuart Danker

      Lol it becomes much more apparent when you see me in person. I’ll be the one recharging in the corner after just a few minutes of mingling. Still a long journey ahead of me, and I appreciate your support!

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  14. Kanchan Balodi Avatar
    Kanchan Balodi

    I love this post today! Totally can relate to the point of calling myself a writer as soon as I meet next recruiter. Speaking to empty rooms is what I am doing at times and the need to look for the topic to write upon is a real struggle. But after everything, the post when it is published is pure joy! Bliss in itself :)

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    1. Stuart Danker Avatar
      Stuart Danker

      Yeah, nothing beats that feeling of not believing you can finish a post, then actually finishing it. That’s why some writers enjoy the feeling of having written and toil through the actual dread of writing itself, lol. Thanks for stopping by!

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  15. Stuart Danker Avatar
    Stuart Danker

    Aww, and you’re inspiring me by leaving such a wonderful comment. Thanks for taking the time!

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  16. Vesos Avatar
    Vesos

    I’ve been blogging for so many years and have quit so many times, but can’t keep myself permanently gone from it. I just love blogging. I also love this article. Following.

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    1. Stuart Danker Avatar
      Stuart Danker

      If you can’t permanently leave blogging, then perhaps that’s your mind trying to tell you something. I’m rooting for you!

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  17. Dana Shalabi Avatar
    Dana Shalabi

    I related so much to your post . I am the person blogging for years and sometimes wondering if there is any value to what I’m doing . Thanks for inspiring me

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    1. Stuart Danker Avatar
      Stuart Danker

      I think that applies to all things in life. There’ll come a point where we’ll wonder if anything we do is worth doing, be it playing the piano, working out, or being a CEO of a company. Thanks so much for your thoughts!

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  18. Brad Borland Avatar
    Brad Borland

    Great post, Stuart! Well put. I just hope the blogging community can stay together during this AI deluge.

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    1. Stuart Danker Avatar
      Stuart Danker

      I used to fear AI, so I started using it more and more. And the more familiar I got with it, the more I’m convinced that this will only open up opportunities for personal stories and voices. Super excited to see what happens though!

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  19. wordsandcoffee1 Avatar
    wordsandcoffee1

    The point about speaking to an empty room prepares me for my live Zoom classes where my students all have their cameras off and are muted ๐Ÿ˜… Just kidding. Sort of. My favorite parts about blogging are sharing whatever I want with the world and chitchatting with folks who find the same things interesting. I got a kick out of your second point because the only gig I did where I was paid for writing content (besides some reporting I did in college for minimum wage) paid 5 cents/word. 50 cents/word sounds like a fortune! I’d be living the high life lol.

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    1. Stuart Danker Avatar
      Stuart Danker

      That’s the kind of mentality that works best for earning money through writing. Once we get into ‘expectation mode’, the work suffers. I’d much rather find out what I love writing for free, then revel in the joy of being paid for it, lol.

      Let’s hope we never run out of things we enjoy blogging about!

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  20. The Travel Architect Avatar
    The Travel Architect

    I’ll take Mai Tais on the beach, or rather, periodic bouts of Mai Tais on the beach. You’re right, though – a constant stream of Mai Tais would be pretty dull. I think that’s what people sometimes face when they retire. It was all work, work, work for 40 years and now it’s nothing but Mai Tais. That’s quite a shift.
    As for writing consistently, I find that I’m getting to the point where I might not always have something to say on a bi-weekly basis (since we go pod-blog-pod-blog for the most part). I’ve largely written about my past travel experiences (those I care to, anyway), and if I’m not traveling a lot, I might not have the blog fodder. I’ve considered what to do about this and, aside from travel more, which isn’t always feasible financially or time-wise, I might just end up posting less. It makes me kinda sad, but what’s a travel blogger to do, especially one who really only writes about her own personal travel experiences?

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    1. Stuart Danker Avatar
      Stuart Danker

      I think the worst part about retiring is that you can choose to work on something, but nobody’s forcing you to anymore, and us being preferrers of least resistance, would most probably opt for the less taxing route. Which is why it’s so easy to coast after retirement, then feel pretty crappy about it. At least that’s how I look at it, lol.

      The content thing is interesting, because on my end, I feel like I’m repeating myself sometimes. Maybe I don’t have enough fodder too. I guess living more is always a good option, eh?

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  21. jeannekoh Avatar
    jeannekoh

    7 seems to be an unforgettable magic number for writers….I remember the 7 habits of highly effective people by Steven Covey…all in 1 book…then he came out with the 8th…and that took 1 book…so your 8th reason might come in 1 blog post! Hahaha….my blog has certainly improved my life in the last 1.5 years…recently its captured my keep fit journey…and I’m still writing about it! Happy blogging!

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    1. Stuart Danker Avatar
      Stuart Danker

      Yeah, I’ve noticed your change of theme too. You did post recipes and updates on your cholesterol levels, but the running log has been super consistent. And as a fellow walk/run fan, I’m happy about that :P

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      1. jeannekoh Avatar
        jeannekoh

        Yeah, that’s the advantage of being a personal blogger! Haha ๐Ÿ˜„ glad you enjoy this!

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  22. Eva Chatterji Avatar
    Eva Chatterji

    I started out a terribly long time ago with a blog on blogger, which for sentimental reasons, is still up, to remind me where I started! Your points are great – I especially like the talking to an empty room! I write because, I know I can, I know that sounds conceited. However, I have never found the confidence to be a writer. So this is my way of writing, where the only person I disappoint is myself.

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    1. Stuart Danker Avatar
      Stuart Danker

      Aww, I totally know how it feels to be disappointed with your own work. But I’m sure that from an outsider looking in, you’ll be the only one who’s disappointed in your work, because others wouldn’t, I’m sure.

      Your subject is hard to write, and there’s so much research that goes into it that I can only be in awe when I’m on your page!

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      1. Eva Chatterji Avatar
        Eva Chatterji

        Thank you! I am actually quite in awe of your blog, it is fun, informative and above all so wonderful to read!

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  23. Krista Beggan Avatar
    Krista Beggan

    Love this one, Stuart! It’s good to be reminded of the benefits of blogging on the days when it feels like work.

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    1. Stuart Danker Avatar
      Stuart Danker

      Lol, I surely hope you get better benefits than the ones listed. But one thing’s for sure, blogging can feel like work more often than not! Thanks for stopping by, Krista!

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  24. Mthobisi Magagula Avatar
    Mthobisi Magagula

    Tremendous blog post Stuart my friendโ™ฅโ™ฅ๐Ÿ‘. I absolutely loved reading it and it is relevant to us Bloggers who need this sort of boost and morale from writing our blogs which is not easy to do but with practice we can achieve our objectives be it to get followers, likes, comments or as you said be paid for your words.

    In reality, those who get paid are those who are educated and experienced such as journalists but an aspiring writer can get paid as long they procure writing work and produce something that would tell a potential employer that he or she is a Writer. My blog started during the lockdown era in 2020 , back then I didn’t have a clue what I was doing but after years of consistency my blog grew and now I am happy with it and this will be my 3rd year blogging and I plan to for as long as I live๐Ÿ’ฏ๐Ÿ’ฏ๐Ÿ’ฏ๐Ÿ™

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    1. Stuart Danker Avatar
      Stuart Danker

      Oh yeah. I’ve been with your blog since the beginning, I think, since it feels like we both started taking blogging seriously at the same time.

      Blogging is not easy indeed, especially since it’s so common to just scream into the void. But the more we turn our attention inwards, the better the journey will be, amirite? Always appreciate having you here!

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  25. JoyWadi Avatar
    JoyWadi

    Thank you for the inspiration!๐Ÿฅฐ

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    1. Stuart Danker Avatar
      Stuart Danker

      And thank you for stopping by!

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      1. JoyWadi Avatar
        JoyWadi

        You are welcome Stuart. Love your post๐Ÿ˜

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  26. mestengobooks Avatar
    mestengobooks

    Nice points. Made me think about my blog and writing style; turns out my writing is more of a narrative, storytelling style versus a ‘this-is-how-you-do-such-and-such-to-succeed’ writer. And, oddly, I have rarely felt like I’m writing to an empty room; I can feel your presence (and others), as if waiting in the wings for my next amazing blog post that will solve all your problems (ha ha). I do struggle with equating my blog posts as ‘published work’ and putting a monetary value on my work (which I’ve yet to be paid for). Thanks for the reminders!

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    1. Stuart Danker Avatar
      Stuart Danker

      It’s totally understandable to struggle with putting a monetary value on your work, especially when it comes to blogging. But just remember that even if you’re not getting paid for it right now, your blog posts are still a form of work that you can be proud of. Keep on writing and sharing your stories, and the rest will fall into place!

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      1. mestengobooks Avatar
        mestengobooks

        Thanks for the reminder! Always get a good chuckle when reading your posts. Been a lousy week and it was a nice break from it.

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  27. Ryan Biddulph Avatar
    Ryan Biddulph

    #3 is absolutely positively one of the best ways that a blog improves your life for many reasons.

    Like you said, since blogging is pretty much a blogger typing words solo in front of a laptop as far as writing and publishing posts, yep, the process of writing and publishing blog content does feel like speaking to an empty room. This forces bloggers to be patient, persistent and to fall in love with the process because the readers – actually having readers and turning a profit, if desired – are a long time coming.

    Bloggers who appear to go big in public practiced in private for a long, long time.

    You need to LOVE blogging. Doing it for virtually no audience – for a while – proves that you do love it….or weeds out bloggers who don’t.

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    1. Stuart Danker Avatar
      Stuart Danker

      Absolutely agree with you! The solo thing is real. But that’s what makes it so rewarding when you finally start to gain traction and build a readership. It takes a lot of persistence, as you put it, to build a high-profile site and get noticed in the crowded blogosphere.

      And you’re right, the bloggers who seem to “go big” overnight often have years of practice and hard work behind them. It’s important for other younger bloggers remember that success doesn’t come overnight, but rather through consistent effort and dedication. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

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      1. Ryan Biddulph Avatar
        Ryan Biddulph

        Well said my friend. The consistent bloggers who keep it simple for a long time shine brightly over the long haul. Keep up the great blogging work!

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  28. Roze Avatar
    Roze

    Another great post Stuart! I’ll join you in that Introvert’s Club and bet I’ll get a Platinum membership too! All the lockdown barely made a difference in my life.
    I’m trying to treat my writing as practice but it’s hard enough to put it out there for the world (or an empty room) to see without feeling that it isn’t any good. I love how you say it though – we get to suck constantly at writing. I need to take this to heart and try to keep on sucking at writing. I have no intentions of quitting now. You keep it up too, I look forward to your posts.

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    1. Stuart Danker Avatar
      Stuart Danker

      Haha, lockdown lovers unite! Yeah, I don’t try to be negative in thinking I’ll suck foreverโ€”instead, I treat it as freedom to write whatever I want, because it’s not as if I’m writing my magnum opus every time I sit at the keyboard. Which is why ‘putting out your first million words’ is always the best goal to have. Thanks so much for your support, Roze!

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  29. Prachi Avatar
    Prachi

    Great advice Stuart!๐Ÿ˜Š

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  30. Kailash Kr. Kanoria Avatar
    Kailash Kr. Kanoria

    is a paid domain good for my blog? Because I am anyways writing for fun and sharing my thoughts, i dont intend monetary gains from my blog

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    1. Stuart Danker Avatar
      Stuart Danker

      I’ve paid for my own domain the entire nine years, and I feel like it gives me a more professional look to be able to say “Visit my site at stuartdanker.com,” so yeah it’s a great investment, especially seeing how it’s not that pricey in the grand scale of things. Highly recommended. Removing ads is recommended too.

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      1. Kailash Kr. Kanoria Avatar
        Kailash Kr. Kanoria

        How do we remove ads?

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      2. Stuart Danker Avatar
        Stuart Danker

        There’s a paid plan on WordPress.com that allows that. The cheapest plan is enough.

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  31. Izzat Zailan Avatar
    Izzat Zailan

    Beautiful post, Stuart. When I started blogging I often thought about putting out โ€œgreat contentโ€ every time. Overtime I too had the realization that itโ€™s the practice itself that counts, and outcomes are mostly out of our control. Itโ€™s a game-changer to practice for the sake of practice

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    1. Stuart Danker Avatar
      Stuart Danker

      Yup. Sometimes I try to remind myself of the same thing, despite falling back to being results-oriented. It’s a constant practice, for sure. Great to see you here again, Izzat!

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  32. haoyando Avatar
    haoyando

    Love all these reasons, especially the one that says becoming a social butterfuly. You are right. I do feel myself being popular online for some inexplicable reason.

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    1. Stuart Danker Avatar
      Stuart Danker

      Lol. Being social is still a major challenge for me though. Am looking to improve it, but it can be tough sometimes. At least WordPress keeps my ‘conversational’ gears oiled!

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  33. rcdowding Avatar
    rcdowding

    I always enjoy your blog. You have just the right โ€˜voiceโ€™ to peak my interest. I donโ€™t usually like the โ€˜5 reasonsโ€ฆโ€™ or โ€˜10 waysโ€ฆโ€™ kind of blog normally but youโ€™re blogs always make me chuckle so I read on. I am super impressed that you write weekly and for three years. Sheesh! Blogging for nine is pretty impressive too. I started my blog to put my writing out into the ether. Hitting publish every month was me being brave. Still is. Sometimes people drop by and sometimes itโ€™s an empty room but thatโ€™s not why I write. I love bumping into other bloggers here in WordPress and I am encouraged when I hear other writers share their inner world. Finding something to say weekly would stress me out. Kudos to you Stephen.

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    1. Stuart Danker Avatar
      Stuart Danker

      Thanks so much for your kind words, it means a lot to me! I’m glad you find my posts entertaining (honoured, really). Yeah, I know what you mean about those ‘5 reasons…’ and ’10 ways…’ type of blogs. They can be a bit meh sometimes. I’m just happy that my writing makes you chuckle. You really made my day saying that.

      And don’t worry, you’re not alone in feeling nervous about hitting that ‘publish’ button. It takes a lot of courage to put your writing out there for the world to see. But it’s great that you’ve found a community here on WordPress and are encouraged by other writers. Keep on writing and being brave!

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  34. ann bayliss tgrtranslation Avatar
    ann bayliss tgrtranslation

    Wonderful piece. Loved the part about considering becoming a mortician! :^) Has me wondering who your favorite top-three writers are (fiction and/or non-fiction).

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    1. Stuart Danker Avatar
      Stuart Danker

      I have too many I love for different reasons, but off the top of my head, it’d have to be Terry Pratchett, David Sedaris, and Neil Gaiman?

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      1. ann bayliss tgrtranslation Avatar
        ann bayliss tgrtranslation

        Saw Coraline. Could appreciate Gaiman’s criticism of some of what might be considered traditional attributes of mothers in favor of the those of the modern career woman with a child. Not sure if I can agree, but have had troubled completely disagreeing since seeing the film.

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        ann bayliss tgrtranslation

        trouble.

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  35. Michelle (Boomer Eco Crusader) Avatar
    Michelle (Boomer Eco Crusader)

    Ha ha. This is so relatable. When I started blogging, I searched โ€œHow to start a blogโ€ and found an article that told me to buy a domain and pay Bluehost for hosting services so thatโ€™s what I did. So, I suppose I was โ€œall inโ€ from the get-go.

    I started out posting once a week or so, then increased to twice a week, and then three times per week. At the beginning of this year, I decided that was a bit much so I went back to twice a week and started updating older posts.

    I keep waiting to run out of ideas, but it hasnโ€™t happened yet. Spewing my thoughts into cyberspace is kind of therapeutic for me so I guess Iโ€™ll keep going.

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    1. Stuart Danker Avatar
      Stuart Danker

      Totally feel you on this! It’s amazing how much you can learn and grow just by jumping in and figuring things out as you go.

      And it’s great that you’ve found a rhythm that works for you with posting. Two a week is a lot! I can definitely relate to the therapeutic aspect of blogging tooโ€”it’s like a way to sort out your thoughts and share your experiences with others. Keep on keeping on!

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  36. Kevin Avatar
    Kevin

    This is another one of your good ones, Stuart. You have earned my attention. See, you got paid for your blog works. Every Tuesday morning, ding ding.

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    1. Stuart Danker Avatar
      Stuart Danker

      Yup. It’s comments like yours that always make my day, Kevin. So yeah, I’m super wealthy in that regard. Thanks for making me feel like a million bucks!

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  37. kimwrtr Avatar
    kimwrtr

    Reblogged this on Kim's Musings.

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    1. Stuart Danker Avatar
      Stuart Danker

      I appreciate this, and I appreciate you!

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      1. kimwrtr Avatar
        kimwrtr

        My pleasure, Stuart! ๐Ÿ˜Š

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  38. MJ Avatar
    MJ

    I’m so new to this site, I’m having difficulty even getting to blogs of other people until they pop out with big followings like yours. ๐Ÿ‘
    I love the positive attitude in writing every day for people to follow, but how can they even find me? ๐Ÿค”

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    1. Stuart Danker Avatar
      Stuart Danker

      For me, the best thing that has worked was the networking bit. I’d spent years commenting on at least 20 blogs a day. I’m sure there’s a much betterโ€”and efficientโ€”way of doing it, but that’s just how I approached it, lol. Hope it helps you, provided you have the time!

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      1. MJ Avatar
        MJ

        Excellent idea. I’ve actually found, over the past few days, that this does work! But with your reiterating, I’m more confident in my decision of moving forward. Twenty a day is a new number– I’ll do it!!

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  39. Mdel Avatar
    Mdel

    I’m not a blogger but I’m a writer who ALWAYS finds wisdom in what you say. I think of you as The Oracle in Malaysia!

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    1. Stuart Danker Avatar
      Stuart Danker

      Oh wow, that’s a new one. Have never been bestowed that term before. But I love that, lol. I appreciate you saying that!

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  40. Victoria Avatar
    Victoria

    I love #3 most of all….some days I giggle…all alone at my desk…when I remind myself, I’m writing for a ‘party of one’…no expectation of an audience/readership…just writing and working out my
    ‘stuff’ and I feel relieved when I do so. Then, as you said Stuart, when someone pops by with a nod or a ‘hey’…it’s all bonus fun! Thanks for describing what I’ve felt but haven’t expressed. ๐Ÿฅฐ

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    1. Stuart Danker Avatar
      Stuart Danker

      Agreed, Victoria! Writing for oneself can be such a cathartic and freeing experience. There’s no pressure to perform or impress anyone else, just the opportunity to work through our own thoughts and feelings. And when someone does come along and show support or interest, it’s like added icing on the cake :D

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      1. Victoria Avatar
        Victoria

        Mmmm…..cake! LOL! Thanks, Stuart! ๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜‰

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    2. Brenda Avatar
      Brenda

      You’d never not have an audience ๐Ÿ˜˜

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      1. Victoria Avatar
        Victoria

        Well now…that’s a lovely thing for you to say, Brenda. xo to you! ๐Ÿฅฐ

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  41. Brenda Avatar
    Brenda

    #4 was the one that got me. That happens much more than I care to.admit

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    1. Stuart Danker Avatar
      Stuart Danker

      Lol. Glad that the points I mentioned still managed to connect. I’ve defaulted to pencils because of this. Economical and works under most scenarios.

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  42. apeacefultree Avatar
    apeacefultree

    Congratulations on the three year streak – that is impressive! It is funny how speaking to an empty room becomes so oddly important as a blogger :)

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    1. Stuart Danker Avatar
      Stuart Danker

      Lol yeah. In fact, when you get used to speaking to an empty room, a filled room becomes a thousand times better! Thanks for stopping by!

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  43. Cindy Georgakas Avatar
    Cindy Georgakas

    Too many things to comment on Stuart. Great post as always but this make my morning with a happy giggle. Thanks for that.

    “I actually considered changing careers to becoming a night-shift security guard. Or a mortician”
    can’t send them to spam, can say you’re a writer.

    I think stand up comedy is in your future and mine too. We could do spoken word together. Don’t miss Sarah Kay and Phil Kaye Spoken Word Poetry on my last Fri-Yay Funday .. they’re awesome and I think you’ll get a chuckle.

    Happy Day,
    ๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ’ž

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    1. Stuart Danker Avatar
      Stuart Danker

      Lol I’ve dabbled in stand-up comedy, and it’s a challenge for sure. Have never tried poetry slams though, and I admire those who do. For now, I think I’ll check out Sarah Kay and Phil Kay’s work first. Thanks for the recommendations!

      p.s. so awesome to read your comment. You’re one of the reasons why blogging is great :P

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      1. Cindy Georgakas Avatar
        Cindy Georgakas

        ๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—

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  44. Tanish Shrivastava Avatar
    Tanish Shrivastava

    One other thing having a blog did for me: It swiftly eliminated any preconceptions anyone may have upon meeting me for the first time after reading my writing, and they thought they could bully me due to their greater knowledge “Because I’m blind.”

    Seriously, that is what some people have said to me. Also, trying to write while being tired is a great practice for when I’ll get a job. (I will get a job, if it is the last thing I do!)

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    1. Stuart Danker Avatar
      Stuart Danker

      It’s unfortunate that some people can be insensitive or judgmental based on someone’s differences or challenges. And writing while tired can definitely be a challenge, but it’s a good skill to have for the future. As I like to say, keep on keeping on, Tanish! I’m rooting for you.

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  45. Chris The Story Reading Ape Avatar
    Chris The Story Reading Ape

    Reblogged this on Chris The Story Reading Ape's Blog and commented:

    Stuart Is wise beyond his years ๐Ÿ˜ƒ

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    1. Stuart Danker Avatar
      Stuart Danker

      That’s such a lovely comment to add onto the already-lovely reblog. Thanks so much for this!

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        Chris The Story Reading Ape

        Youโ€™re very welcome, Stuart ๐Ÿ˜ƒ

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  46. Thomas Slatin Avatar
    Thomas Slatin

    In regards to #5…

    As someone who’s never been much of a social butterfly, I completely understand where you’re coming from. It can be tough to feel like you’re always on the outskirts of social gatherings and not really fitting in with any particular group of people.

    And when it comes to success, it can be even harder. I’ve definitely experienced situations where people seemed to tolerate my accomplishments rather than genuinely supporting me. It can feel isolating and like your achievements aren’t really being acknowledged or celebrated in the way that they should be.

    But at the end of the day, it’s important to remember that your success is ultimately about you and what you’ve accomplished. It’s great to have support and validation from others, but it’s not necessary for you to feel proud of what you’ve done. You know how hard you’ve worked and the obstacles you’ve overcome to get where you are, and that’s what really matters.

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    1. Stuart Danker Avatar
      Stuart Danker

      I couldn’t agree more. It’s easy to get caught up in seeking validation from others, but at the end of the day, our own sense of pride and accomplishment is what truly matters. It’s important to recognize and celebrate our own successes, regardless of whether or not others acknowledge them. And, in my experience, when we have a strong sense of self-worth and confidence, we tend to attract more positive and supportive people into our lives. So, keep striving for success, and don’t let anyone else dim your light!

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  47. Miriam Avatar
    Miriam

    Nine years is a fabulous effort. Well done! Iโ€™ve been at it for seven years and still love the interactions even though I donโ€™t blog nearly as much as I used to. Encouraging post Stuart.

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    1. Stuart Danker Avatar
      Stuart Danker

      Yeah, I feel my output going through peaks and troughs, particularly in the comments section. There’s only so much I can do sometimes. But I’m glad you decided to stop by!

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  48. ganga1996 Avatar
    ganga1996

    Ha Ha ! All great points. I started the blog just before the pandemic and I am seriously in it for the past year and a half. But I like this even if no one reads, likes or comments ๐Ÿ˜ƒ.

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    1. Stuart Danker Avatar
      Stuart Danker

      Enjoying what we do is a great gift in itself, and I’m so privileged to feel it. I feel happy for you too. Keep on keeping on!

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  49. Kelbungy Avatar
    Kelbungy

    Haha! I am totally going to bookmark this post!! Thanks, man. You totally get us, the thankless bloggers. To have someone like you who’s been blogging for almost a decade say this, gives hope for newbies like me. So yah, what if I’m communicating with each post to an “empty room” or if more of my posts suck than succeed at drawing approving eyeballs. The point is to keep on writing for the simple joy and love of it. Which is what this post has inspired me to do this week as my writing well runs dry. This post is replenishing it, and I feel rejuvenated! Stu, keep preaching brother!! Right on, I mean, write on pal!!!

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    1. Stuart Danker Avatar
      Stuart Danker

      Heya Kelvin! Thrilled to hear that it has inspired you to keep writing for the simple love of it! As bloggers, we often put a lot of pressure on ourselves to create content that generate tons of traffic, but it’s important to remember that writing is ultimately about expressing ourselves and sharing our ideas.

      I’ve definitely had my fair share of blog posts that felt like they were written for an empty room, but it’s always worth it to keep pushing through and writing for the love of it. And hey, even if a post doesn’t get the traffic or engagement we hoped for, there’s always something to be learned.

      Thanks for your kind words and encouragement, and keep on writing my friend! Write on indeed!

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      1. Kelbungy Avatar
        Kelbungy

        Ditto!

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